How to Break Out of a Sex Slump

Filed in archive Sexual Health on December 12, 2007

Let's face it. Life gets in the way. After making breakfast for the kids (then driving them to school), heading to work, driving home in Rush Hour traffic, assisting the children with their homework, and cooking dinner, who's in the mood for a rump in the sack? Months of a busy routine can lower or slow down a women's sex drive. However a great article on Todayshow.com can help you break out of a sex slump.

Here are a few highlights. Read the entire article here.

Indulge in a "quickie"

If you're in a relationship, start with some non-pressured, non-sexual, intimacy outside of the bedroom. Studies show that even a 20-second hug raises oxytocin levels, "the cuddle hormone," in both men and women. So get handsy with each other and indulge "little quickies" that don't necessarily lead to sex, but build anticipation and sexual self-esteem. Give it a whirl even if you're not in the mood. Sex is its own aphrodisiac; It raises testosterone levels and gets those nerve endings tingling.

Hit the gym

This is especially true if you're a single guy. Studies have shown that guys who work out and lift weights are more likely to have success with women and more sexual partners than guys who don't- and that's not because women are more into brawn than brains, but because working out boosts testosterone as well as self-esteem: both essential parts of getting back in the game with gusto.

Be prepared for malfunction

Regardless of whether you're a man or a woman, be prepared for a possible mechanical malfunction. After a dry spell, it may take a little while to get back in the saddle so to speak. Sex isn't like riding a bike, because bikes aren't living beings with fears, pressures, and anxieties. It may be harder to relax and let go. If everything doesn't go as you planned "under covers" don't panic or develop a complex or retreat back into your slump.